Ep. 131 - Why parenting is generational with Philippa Perry
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After reading The Book You Wish Your Parents Had Read (and Your Children Will Be Glad That You Did), I knew I had to get Philippa Perry on the podcast. She is a renowned psychotherapist, author, journalist, and television presenter, and the wife of artist Grayson Perry.
In this episode, she helps us unpack what gets in the way of connecting with our children.
She would like children to be able to tell their parents absolutely anything. And, as parents, she says it could be dangerous to close that down. If we can have a strong healthy connection with our kids, the future can take care of itself.
We dig into:
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How to have connected, trusting relationships with our children (even if we didn't have that with our own parents)
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What gets in the way of having a good connection with our kids and what can enhance it
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The trouble with not feeling our own pain
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The generational cycles of parenting
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What does it mean to give our kids 'enough' attention
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Authenticity vs perfection parenting
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How to help children express anger without acting out
There is so much heart and wisdom in this exchange with Philippa. I hope you can feel it too.
Children remind us of what happened to us at the same age
- Philippa Perry
As always, we continue the conversation over on Instagram, so come and join us there.
Resources mentioned in this episode:
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The Book You Wish Your Parents Had Read (and Your Children Will Be Glad That You Did)
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About Philippa Perry
After volunteering with the Samaritans, Philippa trained as a psychotherapist. She worked in the mental health field for several years before writing her graphic novel, Couch Fiction which lays bare the process of psychotherapy. Her recent book, The Book You Wish Your Parents Had Read (and Your Children Will Be Glad That You Did), was a Number One Sunday Times bestseller.
As well as continuing her psychotherapy work with an organisation called Talk for Health, Philippa is also an agony aunt for Red Magazine and contributes to The Guardian newspaper. She has presented several documentaries including The Truth about Children Who Lie for BBC Radio 4, Being Bipolar for Channel 4 and How To Be A Surrealist with Philippa Perry for BBC Four.
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