Ep 164 - How to heal your mother wound with Bethany Webster
This is such a powerful episode. My guest today is Bethany Webster. She is the global expert on healing the mother wound.
You might be thinking what is the mother wound? Do I have one? How do I know if I have one?
Bethany would say most of us are carrying some wounding from our own mothers.
The mother wound is when we split off from our authentic selves because of conscious and subconscious messages from our own mothers about who we need to be, about who they need us to be or about who society needs us to be.
Our beliefs about ourselves are generally formed between the ages of 0-7. That is so powerful. And that is exactly the same time we need our caregiver’s love to survive. So what do we do? We adapt. We split off from who we really are to become who we think we need to be in order to get that love.
And that is the mother wound.
It is important to say that this is not about mother bashing or shaming our mothers. We are all mothers and know how challenging this role is.
Bethany’s call to us is to look at this, so it is less likely that we will pass it on to our own daughters.
This is an incredibly powerful episode and I think Bethany’s work is game-changing.
We chat about:
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What is the mother wound
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Why we need to talk about it
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Shame-based identity
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What is the mother gap and how do we fill it
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Healing intergenerational patterns
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The difference between blaming and taking responsibility
We have to fill the mother gap within our selves to be the mom we want to be for our kids.
- Bethany Webster
As always, we continue the conversation over on Instagram, so come and join us there.
Resources mentioned in this episode:
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Discovering the Inner Mother - book
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About Bethany Webster
Bethany Webster is a writer, international speaker and transformational coach. She started blogging in 2013 about the Mother Wound and quickly experienced worldwide demand for her work. Through blending research on intergenerational trauma, feminist theory, and psychology with her own personal story, Bethany's work is the result of decades of research and her own journey of healing. Bethany speaks, consults and mentors around the world sharing her growing body of work that is raising the standard of women’s leadership and personal development.